Balancing the Positives and Negatives

Remember when you were in third grade, and you learned that there was a dark side of the moon? Since astrology is largely based on planetary position, it makes good logical sense that each astrological sign has a " dark side " as well.

If we are to have productive and happily lived lives, it is important for us to learn to balance our positives and negatives. At the very least, a basic knowledge of both the positive and negative personality traits inherent to us is important in meeting those goals. Additionally, it is important to realize that changes we have no control over are going to occur, affecting us on a deep level.

As inhabitants of the Earth, part of the constant influence upon us is caused by the cycles of the moon. The moon affects the emotions, and is therefore considered feminine. We already know that the moon changes every few days, as it is constantly in the flux of change. These changes affect each of us, regardless of sign, in emotional ways.

Logic and reason must prevail if balance is going to take place in an effective and efficient manner. This means being in control of your emotions, your thoughts, and your reactions. It is important to learn to " go with the flow ." The key to this harmony is knowledge. Knowledge of who you are, whether you react or respond, and the manner in which you do either. In our culture, we are more accustomed to hearing these things classified under the umbrella terms of " coping skills " and " defence mechanisms. "

Knowing the positive and negative traits of your own sign is not enough. It is important to know and understand those traits in others that you deal with on a regular basis - spouses, children, parents, siblings, co workers, bosses, and even friends. This knowledge can help you make the best choices possible when conflict or simple adversity arises within your relationships. Not only negative traits need to be balanced, but positive traits also need balance.

Have you ever been around a perpetually bubbly person about a particular problem you have? They are so busy being bubbly and positive, they can not even begin to hear what you are saying, identify with how you are feeling, or give you constructive advice on how to solve your problem because they are imbalanced themselves. A positive trait, when imbalanced, becomes a negative trait fairly quickly. It just goes to show you, positive is not always good, and negative is not always bad.

Balance means a state of equilibrium - an equal distribution of substance. Substance, in this context, means quality. The goal is to have an equal amount of quality substance on both sides of who you are. The positive can not function properly without the negative, and the negative can not function properly without the positive. The combination of the two creates equality. And try to remember - equal only means equal, it does not necessarily mean the same.